Friendships Change After Baby

When you become a mom, your life changes. And sometimes those changes include the friends in your life. I have found that friends come and go depending on what stage of life you are in. And that is ok. I used to try and hold on to every friendship ever made, but I realized that often doesn't work. Here's why: Friendships are based on commonalities and being there for each other. It's hard when you have a baby, because now you are on different playing fields with a friend who does not. And now it is difficult to be there for each other, because your friend doesn't understand what you're going through with a new baby and you're having a difficult time remembering what life was like before having kids. Perhaps someday your friend will have a baby, all of a sudden relate to you and your friendship will pick right back up. In the mean time, don't worry or stress about the way the friendship is going. Just be thankful you had such a strong friendship during that time of your life.

As you go through life, remember (according to a study done), you only have room for approximately eight people in your life. Your child is one of them. So make sure to surround yourself with people and friends who uplift you and are there for you. And don't worry about making new friends. You will. You will meet other mommies at the park, at preschool, in your area, online, etc.

In the mean time, keep all your friends on Facebook and don't forget to send Christmas and birthday cards to those you really want to stay in contact with regardless of where you are in life.

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