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WORKSHOP on Finding Hobbies and Discovering a Piece of You

DAY 1: ceoMom Workshop on Hobbies

on the job training for the executive domestic
I know what you’re thinking. A hobby. You’d really like to have one. It sounds nice and all, but you’ve been changing diapers, catching throw-up and tying little shoes for so long now that you’re not even sure what you’re interested in anymore. A hobby sounds refreshing, in theory, but you’re not exactly sure how to dive in and find one that you’re sure to like – or even have time for. Really, there is just too much to do to squeeze in a hobby for myself. Well, it’s time we figure this out, because finding a hobby – or in other words something that interests you – is critical for you and your kids. Stay with me here. You’ll catch the vision and find a spark in you after all.

With all a mom has to do, why add a hobby to the mix? Simple. It forces you to take time for yourself. Think about it. If you have nothing that interests you, why would you take time for yourself? You can only take so many bubble baths when you want a little me time (and besides, the kids are always running into the bathroom anyway). A hobby sparks passion inside you, enough for you to squeeze a little time for mom. And that time is necessary for you and your family’s overall well being. We’ll explain.

Moms are under a lot of pressure. You already know this. Everything from getting the kids ready for school to getting them to sleep at night. If the baby cries at 2:00 AM or your child gets sick in the middle of the night, you’re there. Then there’s shuttling the kids to all their activities, making breakfast, lunch and dinner, cleaning the house, grocery shopping and making sure the kids have clean pants. There’s not enough time to mention all that moms do every day. And this doesn’t even calculate the mental prospects of making sure your children are developing properly and growing into independent smart people.

The fact is, with all that moms do for others, moms need a little time for themselves too – or something might give. Typically, an overwhelmed mom might break down at some point. She might get upset or completely withdraw. She might become short with her kids or lose interest and show signs of depression. Over time, a bigger effect is losing your identity all together. So many moms go through this even though their intentions were so good to begin with.

Why a hobby? It will rejuvenate you. It will help you get back to yourself and help you maintain or re-form who you are. When refreshed, you’ll be able to connect with your family better and be able to look deeper within yourself. If you have a strong identity, you can help your own children discover theirs. When your kids see that you value yourself, they will learn to value themselves. And so it comes full-circle.

How does it work? How can a hobby do all that? When you find something that interests you, your mind is invigorated. It starts to think and your body starts to feel. Maybe a little anxious to try something new or get back in the game… Perhaps excited to see how it will turn out. Or maybe a youthful gust of energy will come your way. Regardless, you’ll feel. You’ll feel alive and motivated. This passion will extend to all areas of your life.

For one example, if your kids see you being involved, they will be motivated to be involved in something too. On the flip side, if all they ever see you do is watch TV, then you might have couch potato kids too. Plus, when you participate in a hobby, you will undoubtedly learn new things or have experiences you can pass onto your children. You might learn how to persevere or overcome a challenge or maybe you’ll show your kids how to find enjoyment and personal fulfillment. Perhaps you will meet new people who will give you a new perspective on life. All of a sudden, you’re able to figure out how to solve an issue at home by the experiences of others. So you see, a hobby for yourself, really is a family thing after all.

Moms are often initially hesitant to get involved in an activity or hobby. There’s not enough time in the day to add one more thing. But once an interest is developed, you find there is time – at least time enough to reap the rewards. Moms have to believe they are worth it and catch the vision: Love yourself and you love your family more.

Tomorrow we will discuss how to pick a hobby and find your passion.

Love,
ceoMom 101

3 comments
ceoMom 305, Kerstin

ceoMom 305, Kerstin — about 1 year ago

Wow, I really do need a hobby...How nice would that be!! I think of all my kids' hobbies, which is great for them, but I seem to always be left out. I never have time. But I agree, a hobby actually GIVES you more energy and positiveness than it takes away. But how do I do it? I work full-time (as a teacher) and have two school age kids....Aaaahhh!! How can I manage a hobby when I usually want to just sleep when I'm not doing the 10,000 things that I have to do? I need some advice!!

ceoMom 248, Rebekah

ceoMom 248, Rebekah — about 1 year ago

SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO BE YOUR HOBBY

ie:"Moms are often initially hesitant to get involved in an activity or hobby. There’s not enough time in the day to add one more thing. But once an interest is developed, you find there is time – at least time enough to reap the rewards. Moms have to believe they are worth it and catch the vision: Love yourself and you love your family more."

gain an interest in you and your passion or hobby will emerge. Spend time with your self and on yourself..put the guilt aside..and live for maybe only a few hours a week for only you. This may translate to many different things but it needs to be ALL ABOUT YOU

good luck

ceoMom 579, Justice Fergie

ceoMom 579, Justice Fergie — about 1 year ago

well, truth be told, i think that blogging is my hobby! does that count? i REALLY don't have time for much more!

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DAY 2: ceoMom Workshop on Hobbies

on the job training for the executive domestic
A mom needs a hobby. It gives her a break, time to refresh and recharge. It inspires her mind, gives her character and something to talk about. But just as important, it provides you with the opportunity to learn valuable lessons and pass them onto your children. And if your kids see you involved with something you love to do, they too will look for the same passion inside. A hobby is more than collecting stamps, playing volleyball or blogging. It is the outward expression of who you are or who you are striving to become.

What does a hobby say about you? If you’re training to run a half-marathon, it says you are persistent, love a challenge and not about to quit when it gets hard. If you are into blogging, it says you are witty, able to see stories everywhere in life and interested in sharing your experiences for the benefit of others. If you scrapbook, it says you are detail-orientated, artsy and creative. You may not have even known you possessed these attributes. Finding a hobby is finding yourself.

So how does a mom pick a hobby she can really get into and find the time to actually do it? Here’s how:

Think About Yourself
It’s not often you get to really sit down and think about “you.” What interests you? Now, some moms will have a hard time with that question. They won’t even know what interests them anymore. Being a mom is a tough job and many moms get completely undertaken by it. So this will be a tough question for some. If you’re having a difficult time thinking about what interests you, ask yourself three more questions:

1. What did I used to be interested in before having children? It might help to put on an old CD of music you once loved. Seriously. Pull out your old Prince CD.

2. What have you always wanted to do, but lacked time or courage? Anything is possible right now.

3. What do you admire about what others do? What you see in them, you also possess or you wouldn’t be able to recognize it in another.

Consider Your Budget
Many hobbies are basically free of charge. Others can be very expensive. Before diving into a hobby, consider what it will cost you in the short term and in the long run. If money is of concern for you, consider purchasing second-hand materials from internet listings. Or maybe you know another person involved in the same hobby that will help you get started. Just be conscientious of your budget as you begin or expand your new hobby. But also, don’t completely give up or use the excuse of money as a reason not to get started. Instead, choose a less expensive hobby or start small. If there’s a will, there’s a way.

Consider Your Time
Yes, this is your biggest worry. Many of you will choose not to start a hobby simply because you feel you don’t have time for one. Many moms work full-time in addition to volunteering and everything else a mom does. It’s completely understandable to assume there is no time for any extras. But just for fun, let’s analyze this for a moment.

First, it is true that many hobbies take up a lot of time. Training for an athletic event would require much dedication and a consistent training schedule. But running with a friend one hour per week is a great way to get started. Wanting to redecorate your entire house (yes, this is a hobby), could take endless hours of planning and shopping. But taking one room at a time becomes manageable. You could spend hours watercolor painting or start with one picture and work on it as you find time. If time is a critical factor for you, which in most cases it is, start small. You will be amazed at how much you can do and feel rejuvenated with even a small amount of time.

If finding time away from the kids is an issue, work out a schedule with your husband. You rotate every Saturday morning or every other week, each getting two hours to do whatever it is you want. Create a plan that works for both of you. If this is not an option for you for one reason or another, ask family or hire a babysitter for a couple of hours once every other week. And if all else fails, choose a hobby you can do with the kids participating or in the background.

But more important than anything is this: Passion. When you find something you really want to do, time opens up. Life is a matter of priorities. When you discover passion inside of you for something, that thing gets a priority in your life. You’re passionate about being a mom, your passionate about your family, your passionate about grocery shopping and paying the bills… You might be thinking that you’re not passionate about grocery shopping and paying the bills, but you are passionate about having food on the table and a roof over your head. And so, you make time for those things. Those are your priorities. Make “you” a priority too.

It only takes passion and you will do it, finding time wherever you can. So at this point in the game, don’t worry about your time availability too much. Just focus on finding what it is you want to do and what hobby you would like to pick up if you did have the time. Then just see what happens. You might only spend five minutes a week at first, but you will love those five minutes. See how your life shifts around a little bit to make room for 10 minutes the next week. Eventually you will find a happy-medium. Your first priority will always be your family and everything that comes with that. But there is still room for a little you. You’ll see.

For those of you still trying to figure out what you’re interested in, we’re going to give you plenty of ideas tomorrow to get you thinking. See you then!

Love,
ceoMom 101

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DAY 3: ceoMom Workshop on Hobbies

on the job training for the executive domestic
By now you have caught the vision. Every mom needs a hobby, but it's often difficult to choose one. We're a little overworked these days, to say the least, and we need a break. Well, it's time to find a hobby and we're here to help give you some ideas.

Hobbies are all around us. Opportunities to awaken our minds and learn a new talent are waiting just around the corner. We know coin collecting and scuba diving are hobbies, but what if you want to know if photography or yoga counts?

This is what you need to ask yourself if you want to know whether something is considered a hobby:
Does it give you something to talk about?
Does it give you a break from the day to day routine?
Does it inspire you with new thoughts and thinking?
Does it make you feel passion or excitement or even nervous?

If you can answer each question with a "yes," you have got yourself a hobby!

Here are some ideas to help you find your passion. Go down this list and check the ones you have an initial interest in. Even if you feel a little spark inside, mark it. Maybe add a few more of your own. Then go back and start to tighten your list to 1-3 hobbies or general areas of interest. Tomorrow we will discuss what to do next.

Hobby Brainstorming
Amateur theatre
Animal breeding
Animal rescuing
Animation
Aquariums and sea life
Arts, galleries
Astrology
Astronomy: telescope
Backgammon
Backpacking
Baseball
Basketball
Beachcombing
Beadwork
Becoming a child advocate
Berry picking and canning
Bird and butterfly watching
Blogging
Board games
Boating
Body building
Bonsai trees
Bowling
Building a house for Habitat for Humanity
Cake decorating
Calligraphy
Camping
Candle making
Canoeing
Chess
Cloud watching
Coaching little league, junior dance team, junior theater
Collecting: coins, stamps, antiques, artwork, your favorite things such as quotes, memorabilia or snow globes
Compose music or learn to read music
Crafts
Crocheting and knitting
Cross-stitching and needlepoint
Crossword Puzzles
Cycling: enter a century ride for a good cause
Dancing: learn ballroom or ballet at any age
Diecast collectibles
Dioramas
Diving
Dollhouses: building and decorating
Dolls
Dominoes
Donating or volunteering to cause
Drawing
Educational courses
Embroidery
Entertaining, holiday celebrating
Family videos
Figure painting
Film making
Fishing
Fitness, exercise, aerobics, spin classes
Flag football
Four wheeling
Frisbee
Garage saleing
Gardening: flower, food
Genealogy
Glass blowing
Going to movies and writing reviews
Golf
Gourmet cooking
Hiking
Home repair, do-it-yourself
Horseback riding
Hot air ballooning
Hula hooping
Interior design and decorating
Jewelry making
Jigsaw puzzles
Journaling
Juggling
Kick boxing
Learn a foreign language
Macrame
Magic tricks
Martial arts
Matchstick modeling
Metal detecting, treasure hunting
Models: rockets, airplanes, cars
Mountain biking
Mountain climbing
Music
Musical instrument: piano, violin, guitar, harp
Nature walks
Origami
Paintball
Painting: watercolors, acrylic, oil, canvas
Parachuting
Performing arts
Photography, digital photography, portraiture
Ping pong
Playing team sports
Poetry reading
Pottery
Pressing flowers and leafs
Puppetry
Quilting
R/C cars, boats, helicopters, planes
Rafting
Reading to the elderly or blind
Reading, start a book club
Real estate
Robotics
Rock collecting
Running: enter a 5K or half-marathon
Scrapbooking
Scuba diving
Sculpture
Sewing
Singing: lessons, choir or group, karaoke
Skateboarding
Sketching
Sky diving
Snorkeling
Soap making
Soccer
Spelunkering
Stamp collecting
Storytelling
String figures
Stunt kite flying
Swimming
Tai Chi
Tandem bikes
Tennis
Textiles and patterns
Tide pooling
Traveling
Tutoring
Urban or rural exploration
Volunteering
Walking
Watching sporting events
Water aerobics
Windsurfing
Wine tasting or making
Woodworking
Writing
Yoga
Yoyo tricks


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DAY 4: ceoMom Workshop on Hobbies

on the job training for the executive domestic
You have now chosen an area of interest or hobby you know you want to learn more about. You’ve felt a little spark inside and now it’s time to act on it. If you feel nervous or apprehensive, that’s ok and even normal. It’s been a long time since you’ve gone out for something. Just remember all you do every day as a mom. Think about the courage it takes every morning to wake up and face the day. You’ve got what it takes to do anything you want to do. Just close your eyes for a moment and picture yourself doing the activity you have chosen. You can do it. Take heart and make the first move.

The first step is easy: Just do some basic research. The internet is a wonderful resource to find information on your area of interest. You can find places online or in your town that teach lessons or offer beginner courses. You can even watch beginner videos at YouTube.com. Do a little research and find out what’s available. If it helps, go down to your local recreation or art center and see what classes are offered. Many places have times to meet anyone’s schedule and also offer childcare services. Take a few minutes and find out what support there is for you. If you don’t find anything to help you get started, there is no reason to worry. As you become involved, you will make connections and learn more.

Next, find a picture of someone doing your interested activity or a photo that represents what you want to do. Place the picture on your mirror in your bathroom, so you see it each time you brush your teeth and wash your hands. Make this be a constant reminder of what you want to do. Don’t ignore this step. This is very important. When you see it, you’ll come to believe it. And when you believe it, you’ll do it.

Now it’s time to act. Make the call, send for info, order the first set, attend the first meeting, get up and run… Pick up the phone and call someone you know who is already involved or interested in becoming involved in the same activity. Gain a mentor or form a group. As Nike says: “Just do it.” See how exhilarating it feels. You’re starting to reconnect with who you are.

Finally, remember and continue to feel that spark inside. This is your passion, your aliveness coming through. When you feel this, you’ll smile for no reason and add an extra little bounce to your step. You’ll kids will feel it too. This aliveness will affect all those around you.

A hobby is for you, but it’s also for your family. You will be more available to them when you’ve had a chance to rejuvenate while doing something you love. And when your kids see you interested in something, they’ll be more apt to getting involved in something too. A hobby is a learning experience as well as a teaching opportunity. Every lesson you learn along the way can be passed onto your children who may face similar challenges. At the very least, a hobby requires courage, belief and perseverance – all qualities we wish for our family. So go ahead and get started. A hobby is for you.

This concludes our ceoMom Workshop on hobbies. Thanks for joining us!

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ceoMom 101, Jennifer

ceoMom 101, Jennifer — about 1 year ago

I decided to pick up the hobby of "tennis." I've never really played, but always wanted to. I often walk by the kids' tennis class at the gym and comment to my daughter that it would be fun for her to do that when she gets a bit older. Then I thought to myself: "Why not me?"

I borrowed a tennis racket from my neighbor and bought three pink (yes pink) tennis balls. I've been practicing against the side of my house when I have five or ten minutes to spare. So far, only one in the gutter and no broken windows. I also called the gym and left a message for the tennis instructor. They take adult beginners. And I called a friend who wants to play with me (she's a beginner too). Lastly, I've pulled up a ton of YouTube videos on tricks to playing tennis. I'll watch those when I can squeeze it in.

I'm really excited to give this a try! It's already amazing how five minutes of play brightens your day.

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