Workshop: Overcome Your Fears and Start Living
DAY 2: ceoMom Workshop on Overcoming Your Fears
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Survival
We want our children to survive and quiet frankly, we want to survive to help our children grow and prosper. This is at the root of all our “mom” worries.
Our bodies are bio-chemically engineered to produce the fight or flight response should you find yourself in danger. Your brain produces a chemical that is pumped through your body at the onset of a dangerous situation. This chemical is strong and overtime can erode your system. At times, though, it is necessary to assist you in protecting what is important to you. This is fear in its raw form. This is you wanting to protect your family.
But fear in its raw form, to protect you from immediate danger, is typically seldom. It is the exception, not the rule. It is reserved for extreme cases only. Many moms, however, live with fear on a continuous basis. Why? Because they are story telling.
Story Telling
If you feel fear and are not in pure survival mode, you are story telling. This means you literally come up with a story in your mind about what “could” happen, no matter how unlikely. This is an imaginary story, projected in your mind that causes the same chemical reaction you feel in a fight or flight mode. But there is no real threat. There is just a thought. A thought always precedes an emotion. In other words, you think there could be danger and therefore you feel fear.
If a mom is scared to leave her house because she wants to protect her baby, what story is she telling herself? “It’s dangerous out there.” “We could get into a car accident.” The stories flourish in her mind. She then decides to play it safe and stay home, all the while missing out on life’s experiences.
Use Caution, Not Fear
Fear and caution are two different things. Fear is a distressing emotion caused by the thought of danger, whether real or fake. Caution, on the other hand, is alertness and prudence in keeping your family safe in a practical sense. It’s making sure the car seat is installed properly, driving the speed limit and staying off your cell phone while driving. Anything else is story telling. Caution makes you pause while fear stops you cold in your tracks.
The problem is that our minds love to take practical caution and turn it into fear. You give it an inch; it takes a foot. Instead of allowing the story making to overpower you, let it be a signal for caution. Become alert and be prudent if action is necessary, but then take that first step and experience life.
Awareness
What stories are you creating in your mind? Awareness of your story making is half the battle. By simply being aware of your illusionary stories, they will begin to fade. Every time you feel story-making fear, simply allow the feeling to come, abide and dissolve on its own. Take a deep breath in and release. It’s that easy.
Tomorrow we will discuss more ways to overcome fear and create a powerful you.
Love,
ceoMom 101
Survival
We want our children to survive and quiet frankly, we want to survive to help our children grow and prosper. This is at the root of all our “mom” worries.
Our bodies are bio-chemically engineered to produce the fight or flight response should you find yourself in danger. Your brain produces a chemical that is pumped through your body at the onset of a dangerous situation. This chemical is strong and overtime can erode your system. At times, though, it is necessary to assist you in protecting what is important to you. This is fear in its raw form. This is you wanting to protect your family.
But fear in its raw form, to protect you from immediate danger, is typically seldom. It is the exception, not the rule. It is reserved for extreme cases only. Many moms, however, live with fear on a continuous basis. Why? Because they are story telling.
Story Telling
If you feel fear and are not in pure survival mode, you are story telling. This means you literally come up with a story in your mind about what “could” happen, no matter how unlikely. This is an imaginary story, projected in your mind that causes the same chemical reaction you feel in a fight or flight mode. But there is no real threat. There is just a thought. A thought always precedes an emotion. In other words, you think there could be danger and therefore you feel fear.
If a mom is scared to leave her house because she wants to protect her baby, what story is she telling herself? “It’s dangerous out there.” “We could get into a car accident.” The stories flourish in her mind. She then decides to play it safe and stay home, all the while missing out on life’s experiences.
Use Caution, Not Fear
Fear and caution are two different things. Fear is a distressing emotion caused by the thought of danger, whether real or fake. Caution, on the other hand, is alertness and prudence in keeping your family safe in a practical sense. It’s making sure the car seat is installed properly, driving the speed limit and staying off your cell phone while driving. Anything else is story telling. Caution makes you pause while fear stops you cold in your tracks.
The problem is that our minds love to take practical caution and turn it into fear. You give it an inch; it takes a foot. Instead of allowing the story making to overpower you, let it be a signal for caution. Become alert and be prudent if action is necessary, but then take that first step and experience life.
Awareness
What stories are you creating in your mind? Awareness of your story making is half the battle. By simply being aware of your illusionary stories, they will begin to fade. Every time you feel story-making fear, simply allow the feeling to come, abide and dissolve on its own. Take a deep breath in and release. It’s that easy.
Tomorrow we will discuss more ways to overcome fear and create a powerful you.
Love,
ceoMom 101
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